About dating and not only

About dating and not only

     In terms of walking on teen dating roll a lot more fights with their parents than in any other case. Many of these conflicts focuses on the problem of when to start. Most teens believe that it is already old enough – you probably – but most parents say otherwise. They think they will never be ready.
     The problem is that you and your parents look at the same situation from different points of view – neither of you determines the appropriate age according to the same scale. Parents look through the prism of many years of experience and look mainly to the problems. You look in the direction of all the joy that you dreamed. (…)

     Anyone who has common sense knows that you are willing to walk out on dates after birth, right?


     It sounds interesting, but arranging, before you are ready for it, it can have serious consequences. For example, a girl fell in love with a boy at school, but she knew that he has some bad habits. She knew she should not go out with him, until they do not get rid of. Finally he gave up and made an appointment with him, because he had promised her that gravity. In his naivety he believed him. I just trusted him until marriage. He advised her to wait, but said: „We love each other. Love of doing it”

     Just one month after the wedding of his old habits resurfaced but she remained with him, hoping that it will keep its promise and change. Then one day he told her that tired him „to tie”. He wanted his freedom was amazed.

     Suddenly, after five years of marriage, they divorced. She was responsible for two small children. With only a high school education she could not find a job, to properly take care of children.

     The girl lived in an unhappy present, with an uncertain future because of the irresponsible past.

     She made an immature decision. Later he received many of its effects.

     A lot of problems with walking together – as many marital problems – due to the fact that the partner or the partner start dating before they are mature enough.

     The girl from the above example was certainly not mature enough to pick up on dating because she could not resist his emotions and make a responsible choice.

     The appropriate age from walking together is not physical age On the contrary, it is a matter of spiritual maturity, emotional and social. The maturity is revealed in the quality of your contact with their parents, and especially in your ability to rely on a consistent and total physical involvement. (…)

     How to assess your maturity?

     St. Paul, in 1 Timothy provides a good, general tips to help you get started:

     Let no one despise your youth, but be an example for the believers in speech, in manner, in love, in faith, in purity.

(1 Timothy 4:12)
     You are mature enough to walk on dating, if stanowisz example of who is really a Christian. Person ripe for of dating every day is dedicated to the speech, behavior, love, faith and purity, which is like Jesus Christ. This is the maturity in all their aspects. Let us examine in detail each of these spheres.


     It is not about the same ability to express themselves, eg. A lesson at school. It’s about what you say every day in normal conversation.

     If your speech under the control of Jesus Christ, matured already of dating. St. Paul wrote, how to do it:

     Let’s not coming out of your mouth, no question harmful, but only uplifting, depending on the needs to done for the good of the listener.

(Eph 4,29)
     Other building your speech is full of praise and thanksgiving addressed to God. You glorify Him for who he is, and thank him for what he did as You say nice things to others, and you encourage them your praise and encouragement is concrete and sincere.

     When you avoid the wrong way, then your words do not contain foul language, gossip, lies and humiliation of others. If you can not even control your tongue, you’re not mature enough to pick up a date.

     When your speech is characterized by positive qualities and you can not see it any negative traits, this is the first sign that you are ready.


     The second criterion of maturity is that if your actions consistently reflect the behavior of Christ, which we see in the Bible. This does not mean that you have to be perfect. This means, however, that going to what is best, trying to consistently do what is right. If your behavior hurts God or another person, it means that you have to go back and ask for forgiveness of both God and the person apostle Paul wrote: „I myself hard I try to always have a clean conscience toward Koga and to the people.” Think about your life. Do you have a problem, which has not yet solved? If so, look closely poniższemu statement.

     Clean conscience is very important for many reasons, not only because it determines your to maturity of dating. Without a clear conscience:

You can not enjoy the fellowship with God
Your iniquities have separated between you and your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that you do not hear (Isaiah 59.2).

You lose your joy
You discover that breaks down your Christian life
It is this injunction I commit to you, Timothy, my child, to the prophecies, which previously pointed to you, you supported them fight the good fight, having faith and a good conscience. Some rejected them succumbed to the breakdown in the faith (1 Timothy 1,18-19).

You are not close to the person you hurt
Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and first go and be reconciled to your brother (Mt 5,23-24).
You give non-Christians reason to question your witness to Christ
And with meekness and fear God observe a clear conscience, so that those who slander your good behavior in Christ suffered embarrassment just by what you slanderously accuse (1 Peter 3:16).
     If any of these statements sound familiar to you, ask God to remind you every person I have offended. This may be a God, maybe parents, brothers or sisters, friends, old friends, teachers or co-workers. When you remember someone, write who it was and what you did. Then list what you need to do to ask for forgiveness. This is called satisfaction.
     When you come to ask for forgiveness, you have to say three things. First, tell given to man, that your behavior was wrong. Second, show yourself that you’re sorry because of what you did, I finally ask for forgiveness.

     I never hang. You can invent all kinds of excuses not to ask for forgiveness, but if you prepare to walk with someone, you need to have a clear conscience.

Barry St. Clair, Bill Jones
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