Two friends met up with each other after a long period of separation. During this time one of them became rich and the other poor.
They sat down together at the table and began to recall moments lived together.
During the conversation the poor man suddenly nodded off.
A friend in a fit of emotion, before leaving his house, he slipped into a pocket yet big diamond of immense value.
However, when his poor friend woke up, he found he donated treasure and started his day as if nothing had happened.
A year later, fate made the two friends met again.
”Tell me”, said the rich, seeing his friend again in great trouble, „why do not you have done good to the treasure that I left in your pocket?”.
A similar event occurs in every interpersonal encounter. Living in the proximity of our people are giving us valuable treasures. But we are not aware of it usually.
One day a man who was looking for happiness came up with the idea.
- God must have a prescription for happiness. I’m going to him – he said.
He walked for days until it encountered a lion.
- Hey, man! Where do you rush? – He asked the lion.
- I’m going to God the recipe for happiness – said the man.
- Wait, I have a small request – said the lion. – I lost my appetite. Ask him what to do.
- I’ll ask him – said the man and followed on.
He walked until encountered usychający baobab.
- Man – said the baobab. – Something big pinches me under the roots. Wither! Deliver me from suffering!
- When I can not – said the man.
- I’m going to God the recipe for happiness – he said, and walked away.
Chased him begging Baobab:
- Ask God what to do …
Man walked on, until met a beautiful girl. The girl was crying. When she saw him, she said:
- You could help me? I’m looking for a husband, because soon I’m old!
- Nothing of that. I’m going to God the recipe for happiness. Before me a long way – the man muttered and walked quickly away. He heard the request of the girl to her name asked God for advice.
Finally, he reached the place.
- Hello – said the kindly god. – How can I help you?
- Seeking a recipe for luck – said the man.
- Mmm – she considered a god. – It is one step away from your nose. You just have to catch!
The man was glad that happiness is close, and he remembered the lion, baobab and a girl. He talked about their troubles. God said:
- Tell her she is beautiful and has the best heart. The first man she encounters after hearing these words, would be her husband. Tree say that under his roots is hidden the greatest treasure on earth. Someone has to dig him … A lion pass that if you eat first encountered the person immediately regain appetite.
The man was so excited that it considered specifically the words of God. He wanted to catch luck, so he started to run. After a few hours encountered a girl who asked:
- Hey, no, and how?
- God said that happiness is right in front of me. Hurry to me does not escaped – the man gasped.
- And you asked God for me? – Asked the girl timidly.
- Yes – said the man. – God says that you are beautiful and you have the best heart. The first man whom you meet when you hear those words, it is an ideal candidate for a husband.
- Wait – the girl said. – But it’s you!
But the man replied:
- Oh, maybe not now. I chase my happiness. But back when I catch them – and ran away.
After a few days chasing met usychający baobab. This said,
- Did you meet God? Did you find happiness?
- Hurry up – the man gasped. – God said that happiness is just around the corner.
- Did you ask me?
- God said that under your roots is a hidden treasure. Someone has to dig him up and you will be able to drink.
- Kop – said the baobab. – You’ll be rich, and to relieve me!
- Not now. First I have to find the happiness that eludes me – exclaimed the man.
Until he met a lion. Emaciated lion asked him in a weak voice:
- Did you meet God?
- Hurry up – shouted a man. – Happiness eludes me!
- And you asked about my problem with gusto?
- Oh, yes – said the man. – God said you must eat first encountered the man, and then regain appetite.
And so the story of a man who was running for the happiness came to an end.
Elder called Frank was 20 years old. The younger Ted was 18 years old. A lot of time spent together, their friendship has reached elementary school. Together they decided to enlist in the army. Before leaving, they promised each of the families that will be mutually watch out for each other.
Luck favored them and they were in the same battalion. Their battalion was sent to war. It was a terrible war, amid the burning desert sands. For a time, Frank and Ted stayed about the camp, protected by air. But one day, in the evening came the order to enter the territory of the enemy. The soldiers under enemy fire of hell they came to a village. But it was not Ted. Frank was looking for him everywhere. He found his name in the list of the missing. He applied at the commander to ask for permission to search his friend.
- It’s too dangerous – said the commandant. – I’ve lost your friend, I would have lost you as well. There’s sharp shooting.
Frank, despite all gone. After a few hours he found Ted mortally wounded. Carefully he took it on his shoulders. Suddenly it reached missile. Superhuman effort, he managed to bring a friend to the camp.
- Was it worth dying to save a dead man? – He asked the commandant.
- Yes – he whispered Frank, since before the death of Ted said: – I knew you’d come.
This is what we say to God at a time like this:
„I knew God would come!”
In terms of walking on teen dating roll a lot more fights with their parents than in any other case. Many of these conflicts focuses on the problem of when to start. Most teens believe that it is already old enough – you probably – but most parents say otherwise. They think they will never be ready.
The problem is that you and your parents look at the same situation from different points of view – neither of you determines the appropriate age according to the same scale. Parents look through the prism of many years of experience and look mainly to the problems. You look in the direction of all the joy that you dreamed. (…)
Anyone who has common sense knows that you are willing to walk out on dates after birth, right?
It sounds interesting, but arranging, before you are ready for it, it can have serious consequences. For example, a girl fell in love with a boy at school, but she knew that he has some bad habits. She knew she should not go out with him, until they do not get rid of. Finally he gave up and made an appointment with him, because he had promised her that gravity. In his naivety he believed him. I just trusted him until marriage. He advised her to wait, but said: „We love each other. Love of doing it”
Just one month after the wedding of his old habits resurfaced but she remained with him, hoping that it will keep its promise and change. Then one day he told her that tired him „to tie”. He wanted his freedom was amazed.
Suddenly, after five years of marriage, they divorced. She was responsible for two small children. With only a high school education she could not find a job, to properly take care of children.
The girl lived in an unhappy present, with an uncertain future because of the irresponsible past.
She made an immature decision. Later he received many of its effects.
A lot of problems with walking together – as many marital problems – due to the fact that the partner or the partner start dating before they are mature enough.
The girl from the above example was certainly not mature enough to pick up on dating because she could not resist his emotions and make a responsible choice.
The appropriate age from walking together is not physical age On the contrary, it is a matter of spiritual maturity, emotional and social. The maturity is revealed in the quality of your contact with their parents, and especially in your ability to rely on a consistent and total physical involvement. (…)
How to assess your maturity?
St. Paul, in 1 Timothy provides a good, general tips to help you get started:
Let no one despise your youth, but be an example for the believers in speech, in manner, in love, in faith, in purity.
(1 Timothy 4:12)
You are mature enough to walk on dating, if stanowisz example of who is really a Christian. Person ripe for of dating every day is dedicated to the speech, behavior, love, faith and purity, which is like Jesus Christ. This is the maturity in all their aspects. Let us examine in detail each of these spheres.
It is not about the same ability to express themselves, eg. A lesson at school. It’s about what you say every day in normal conversation.
If your speech under the control of Jesus Christ, matured already of dating. St. Paul wrote, how to do it:
Let’s not coming out of your mouth, no question harmful, but only uplifting, depending on the needs to done for the good of the listener.
Other building your speech is full of praise and thanksgiving addressed to God. You glorify Him for who he is, and thank him for what he did as You say nice things to others, and you encourage them your praise and encouragement is concrete and sincere.
When you avoid the wrong way, then your words do not contain foul language, gossip, lies and humiliation of others. If you can not even control your tongue, you’re not mature enough to pick up a date.
When your speech is characterized by positive qualities and you can not see it any negative traits, this is the first sign that you are ready.
The second criterion of maturity is that if your actions consistently reflect the behavior of Christ, which we see in the Bible. This does not mean that you have to be perfect. This means, however, that going to what is best, trying to consistently do what is right. If your behavior hurts God or another person, it means that you have to go back and ask for forgiveness of both God and the person apostle Paul wrote: „I myself hard I try to always have a clean conscience toward Koga and to the people.” Think about your life. Do you have a problem, which has not yet solved? If so, look closely poniższemu statement.
Clean conscience is very important for many reasons, not only because it determines your to maturity of dating. Without a clear conscience:
You can not enjoy the fellowship with God
Your iniquities have separated between you and your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that you do not hear (Isaiah 59.2).
You lose your joy
You discover that breaks down your Christian life
It is this injunction I commit to you, Timothy, my child, to the prophecies, which previously pointed to you, you supported them fight the good fight, having faith and a good conscience. Some rejected them succumbed to the breakdown in the faith (1 Timothy 1,18-19).
You are not close to the person you hurt
Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and first go and be reconciled to your brother (Mt 5,23-24).
You give non-Christians reason to question your witness to Christ
And with meekness and fear God observe a clear conscience, so that those who slander your good behavior in Christ suffered embarrassment just by what you slanderously accuse (1 Peter 3:16).
If any of these statements sound familiar to you, ask God to remind you every person I have offended. This may be a God, maybe parents, brothers or sisters, friends, old friends, teachers or co-workers. When you remember someone, write who it was and what you did. Then list what you need to do to ask for forgiveness. This is called satisfaction.
When you come to ask for forgiveness, you have to say three things. First, tell given to man, that your behavior was wrong. Second, show yourself that you’re sorry because of what you did, I finally ask for forgiveness.
I never hang. You can invent all kinds of excuses not to ask for forgiveness, but if you prepare to walk with someone, you need to have a clear conscience.
Barry St. Clair, Bill Jones
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Why do not you have a boyfriend?
Waiting to Exhale
Why do not I have a boyfriend? What age is the right to love? Are you ready to love? These are the questions we ask ourselves when we are alone. Sometimes they result from the fact of our inner need of giving love another man, and sometimes we feel strange because all our friends already have someone and we do not. As has been thus? When „should” be with someone? And what do you do when you love a very long time does not come?
Loneliness is one of the most difficult topics in this book and in general in life. In fact, we do not know why it happens that some of the teens hit the right person (a rare case but they know this) and others thirties, even after, and still do not have anyone. The fundamental question we need to ask ourselves is: do we want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend? We’re talking seriously, it’s extremely important question, because everything in life to make sense for example. We learn to get into college, and then get a job. Therefore, such an important thing as love must also „the thing” to be.
The appropriate age for the love of a lifetime. Of course, in the dimension of spousal love, the upper limit is not a bottom is very individual. It depends on the maturity, internal needs, the nature, cultural factors and a host of other factors. Generally man ready to love a mature man. And they do not even mature enough in the sense formed, but constantly growing, constantly maturing, wanting to change. Some mature love, the need to be in a relationship at the age of ten years, some thirty and some even later. Some no such need lifelong not feel. The fact that teens do not have or do not even want to even have a boyfriend or girlfriend is a normal, healthy and symptom of the fact that perhaps all of our friends are already in a relationship with someone does not mean anything. It is the media that orient our present mentality, it seems to us that this is something strange. Thus did not. Several years ago, „having” the boy even in high school was not widespread. In contrast, today more and more often it happens that the middle school is already a few relationships. Love is something so beautiful and responsible but it is not worth it make change for small, worth waiting for true love. Teenage years and is a fantastic time to develop friendship, to learn many things, the development interests. For the love you have to be ready. If it is not, he is not able to take it properly then it is a disappointment, frustration, and that’s why maybe your friends have already had a few guys. Because I could not neither they nor the boys persevere in relationships. But the point is not to have as many boys to as many people to please. The point is not to satisfy their emotional needs or show off to their peers. In love, the idea is to give the good to another person.
So how do we prepare for love? The measure of the maturity of a person to love are:
- Acceptance and self-love
- My attitude to others
- My relationship to God.
You can not love someone if you do not love ourselves. You first need to like yourself, believe that you are a valuable person, that can cope with the problems and that the environment was not lying in wait for our tripping. Because it’s as others see us also depends on ourselves. We know from the environment, a lot of people, quite ordinary, that his way of being, speaking, behavior seem smarter, more confident, so-called. soul of the company. They are also highly intelligent people, a taciturn and no one comes to mind to choose their leader for anything. So our behavior affects the perception of others. I’m ugly? What! I can be nice and friendly. I can not shine in the company? But I can listen to people and they come to me for advice. Think in this way, look for a good and strengths. Small successes will you enjoy and uplift. Also raise your self-esteem. Naturally, this has to be narcissism and admiration for each other just self-acceptance. The realization that I was not on the earth by accident that God deliberately created me and that I have something to do. Furthermore, since this made me (in the sense of beauty and ability) is the way I am I have to grow and do not dream about daydreaming, not regret for half my life, I do not have blond hair just a little too large buttocks, or do not sing like an angel only falsify . You have to see his good side, eg., That can cook, I have patience with children, I am strong. And I do not have two doctorates, and I do not know five languages? Apparently I not received a talent for doing just for something else. And that’s what I should develop my duty to multiply. For it you can not say anything I can not. No. Always SOMETHING you can. Even as you are paralyzed it can pray. There are no people without talent. You only need to discover it. Give yourself time and chance. Act to inch and a search for something what you like and develop it and before you know it you’ll be a beautiful butterfly. As long as you do not accept, you love yourself you will not be able to love someone. Because love is the desire for the good of others. And we have to love someone „as yourself.” And if you hate yourself that your measure is hatred rather than love.
Ask yourself what you hate in yourself. Just do not tell „everything”. Specifically, replace. What? Appearance? If so, you most? Hair figures? If the style of being, what? Inability to speak, inability to make contact? Take a piece of paper and write on the other hand you hate. Take a whole list. It is Satan’s plan to you. Destroy you through a list of what you hate in yourself. You lovingly program Report – without knowing it – his plan your self-destruction. Now, take this card. It will also be your plan. Plan of self-preservation. That’s what you have to tame a hated. We do not say that love, because it can you go wrong. Besides hard to love crooked teeth or stuttering. But tame. Understand that this is you, this is a piece of you. Think about it: if the beloved person you had such a problem (with one listed on this sheet), then you would be angry at her, she reproached her and embraced, hugged, kissed, he said, and so you love. Well, tell me: would you react? Certainly obruszysz is: no clear it with love! Not true. If you hate each other are the same (or other) features will you get upset with others. You’ll be angry that someone has something he can not, that is not as you want. You do not accept it. And as you do not accept that you love. Therefore, start with yourself. Try to accept yourself. Not at all confident you will succeed, but not the point. The point is, you have learned to accept rather than reject. And that love is. In accepting what someone is gazing from understanding. Now you understand why self-love is so important? Because understanding to each other is a prerequisite to understanding someone. If he survived something, if you go with something uporałeś to better understand someone. You will know him as hard as the old and be able to help him. And like myself you reject it a second or not accept. And you will not be able to love.
Another issue that needs to be considered: relationship to the environment – parents, friends, colleagues, my friends. What am I like? If I respect his mother and wife will respect it. If you do not „napyskuję” crudely grandmother is in love and I’ll be subtle. Am I selfish (in terms of current understanding, not a sick attitude that nothing for myself, I am nothing and give up use)? Can I share and help selflessly? Can I discuss without proving wrong at any price? Can I keep calm and do not be angry for any reason? Am I honest? And so that you can for a long time, the question is whether I am mature in relationships with others. How do I receive the environment, I am at home? Can I normally coexist or „all the people I upset?” Because, as always annoyed me, all I’m not mature. Of course we are not talking about isolated cases of nervousness, but about people who claim that „everything annoy them.”
Well, my relationship with God. I only believe in God or believe God? I believe that what he has planned is for my own good and I him as an enemy, which I saw under his feet to throw Our previous experience and, in particular, our image of the father affects our image of God. Not without reason is said to God – Father, do not you? It is often so hard to believe we in the goodness and mercy of God if I have not experienced it from his father. If our earthly father is stern and unapproachable God is simply afraid and it seems to us that he will judge us harshly and certainly we do not forgive. If the father is not respected at home to the temptation of perceiving God as someone who does not need a special care and shall tilt the scales in the other direction – it seems that we can sin and God will forgive us anyway. If the father is absent at home (at least in spirit) God is far away and we have the impression that all of us, our lives do not care. How to change it? Realize that: first – Your father is also a man, it probably was wounded in life and maybe not with these injuries to cope, hence such behavior. That does not excuse him of course, but it helps to understand why this happens. So if the father or the man (and only one), and God is a God that does not mean that God is like your father. And that being a father does not mean always being such as your father. True fatherhood is more similar to the relationship between God and man, but the man is not able to go to such heights, to implement such relationships. Of course, should be to strive for it and try, some are successful more, others less, but nevertheless true fatherhood is the love that God has for us and not the negative examples from the environment. Secondly, you are already or nearly adult. So you can not always justify the fact that you have been wounded, that your father is a God and that’s why you see. If you’re an adult, ie. Mature then you should take a look at God’s eyes of an adult and not the child victim. Very often people stop in the spiritual development at the stage of the child. Then he hears that someone comes to church not because God still „have it somewhere,” and anyway that priests are such and owacy. It’s terribly schematic, immature, so almost no say – simplistic thinking. It’s true, and priests are sinful, and God does not always give you what you want, but if like us number one teacher put it throw school and neglect education because the teacher did not understand us? Whence! Thus the love of God is to consent to live according to His will and not just our preference. That does not mean that we should not have dreams, desires. Slow. Slowly, even the need to pray for their implementation. But then you have to add „… if you are consistent with your Will, O Lord …”. Because if you are not consistent, if He wants us something else we have to give him a free hand in guiding us in the bestowal us what he considers to be good for us. In the bestowal of us love. So reciprocating God’s love is „only” permission to God bestowed us with his love. Nothing more. And if so, we reasoned that God wants our good, that He really is like a loving father, he will forgive us forever and that His mercy is greater than our sins and limitations that mean that our relationship with him is correct.
And what about unbelievers? Is it possible to love God without loving man?
It seems to us that atheists also love in relation to some absolute, some values. For them, the reference point is good, beauty, perfect love. Each person in fact bears the longing for higher values, even if the value is not set for him by God. In general, good feelings and desires are born in a man of some deeper spiritual needs of inner longing. In fact, behind this God.
Atheists do not believe in God, but so might wish good for the other person to reckon with her feelings. God because they translate to their values. If that was not a lie would be their words of love, and the Church does not allow entry of mixed marriages as if not believing that their marriage vow will be true. Also, then there would be no possible salvation if the atheists would not be in them love. We know, however, that it is not. It is possible, and their salvation, and their lives in the dimension of honesty, kindness, etc. Can sometimes be a model for us believers. In our view, so it is possible to love a person without the love of God as a person but in relation to God – the value of the absolute – any to give him a name – which is the source of this love.
But back to wait for love. If time flies, and on the horizon very long time no one can see it’s actually a person begins to worry.
BARRY: I also began to worry about his loneliness when I finished 25 years. It seemed to me that in me there is a problem, since everyone around with someone they are. And I do not. And I was sociable and cheerful, well, just „normal”. A time passed and nothing. In the end, I met this one but it was not at a time when so much that I wanted and during that time when I was alone I was a little grief to God that this is so. I do not know why God so much a „delayed,” sometimes I had the feeling of lost time. I just do not know. God has plans for everyone, even if we seem to be meaningless.
Once we find out why this is happening now, we can only speculate.
Perhaps God wants to save you from binding to the wrong man, maybe this is your only only is not yet ready for a relationship with someone? In any case, surely this is your waiting makes sense, even if you it could not yet understand. Therefore, do not expect love with a watch in hand, do not look out on every corner, because as you will not come to you more and more frustrated. God knows the right time for us and I think it is a bit perverse because somehow it just so happens that gives us love when you actually stop to this so intensely think, we stop only at her tune. Focus, therefore, on what you have to do in life in general, as if to love is not waiting, learn, develop hobbies, can engage in a community? The point is not that you desire to love himself expelled, because it’s impossible. We’re not able to forget about something what we care most about! We can not prohibit think and feel. Do not suddenly stop us „move” view lovers. The idea is to make good use of the time when I do not have anyone. Come for some courses may postgraduate courses, aerobics, learn a foreign language. Watcha with friends in interesting places.
And do not wait passively! Do not refuse to participate in social activities, the laity, not only of the Community. Sometimes even go to a disco, and even let your friends arranged a meeting with someone. Here there is nothing to be ashamed of, really. Loneliness is not a fault, it is shame. There is no shame in actively seeking a spouse. There is no shame in seeking it on the Internet or in the office of matrimony. But as we prepare for major life events eg. To educate and carefully choose the bank, which will give us a loan is how much more you need to prepare for life in two. Go on a pilgrimage or select a constant, daily prayer for this intention. This may be eg. A novena or decade of the rosary – only pray regularly. Keep in contact with people in the same situation as you. Love comes quietly, at first you would not even know it was her.
But if you really come? How do you know? And if the waiting is in vain? Will surely come, but not for everyone under the same form. We understand that you’re talking about the answer to the question: if I ever had a boyfriend / girlfriend or husband / wife? We do not know for sure. It knows only God. One thing is certain: God gives us love. He knows what will save us and closer to Him and so gives us life circumstances, we can choose the good. Sometimes uses people – including a marriage because – because God decides that it will help us to salvation. Sometimes calls us to religious life – because it is considered that this road will be best for us. Sometimes, however, it does neither this nor that. Then maybe he wants us to be realized in the love of serving others without being in a marriage or in the law. This is such a huge secret that we do not undertake to explain why that is and what it depends on. We only know that preparing themselves for love is never in vain. This is no time wasted. And that’s why you should pray for love. If you feel that realizowałbyś in marriage to ask God to put your way through the right man. And do not be discouraged if it does not happen right away.
Are you a who is regularly stressed? Whether you are worried about issues like money, parenting, work, travel, or romance, have you ever just wanted to get away and unwind? If you have, have you ever thought about making an appointment with one of your local spas? If this is something that you have yet to think about, now may be the time.
As nice as it is to hear that you should visit a spa, many women, possibly just like you, want to know why. Many women deal with issues, on a daily basis, that cause them stress. Without a proper way to unwind that stress, the emotions that you are feeling may, literally, overwhelm you. For many women, exercising, eating, or a night out on the town can help relive some of their stress related issues, but not always. If you are one of those individuals, who can’t seem to find a way to get the issues that you are dealing with out of your mind, a spa visit may be worth a try.
When it comes to spa visits, it is important to remember that spas come in a number of different formats. It is possible to find spas that are focused on beauty, like ones that offer hair care services, nails, and tanning. On the other hand, it is possible to find full service spas. Full service spas are often spas that not only offer nail care and hair care, but ones that also have massages, body wraps, acupuncture, and many other services available for you to choose from. If, at all possible, you will want to try and visit a full service spa, as they are the ones that come highly rated and recommended.
Now that you know what spas are and a few of the many services that most offer, you may be wondering again why you should make an appointment with your local spa. For starters, the services available at most spas are those which can help relieve your stress and help you unwind. For instance, acupuncture and massages are regularly used to treat stress caused by a number of different issues, such as work, family, and money.
When making a spa appointment, you can make your appointment alone or with a group of friends. If you are interested in inviting a few of your friends along with you to your spa appointment, it can turn into a fun and exciting, yet relaxing adventure. Of course, if you would like to attend your spa appointment solo, there are benefits to doing so as well. For many women, there is nothing like disassociating themselves from their everyday world and all of the issues that come along with it.
In addition to helping you unwind from stress, a spa visit may also help to improve you appearance. Although many individuals opt for services like massages or body wraps, others also decide to get their hair or their nails done at the same time. This can, in turn, help to improve you appearance. In addition to possibly looking more physically attractive, mini-makeovers have often been attributed to uplifted spirits.
If you would like to use a spa visit to help you unwind, you will want to make an appointment, preferably as soon as possible. When looking for a spa to visit, it is important that examine costs. There are many spas where you can to pay for each service that you would like use, but there are others who will allow you to simply buy a day pass. You may also want to try to research each local spa that you have access to online. Be sure to look at pictures. You will want to visit a spa that has a comfortable and inviting atmosphere.
In short, a spa visit will not necessarily make all of the issues that you are dealing with, like financial trouble, go away, but a spa visit may give you a “break,” from the real world, even if it is only for a few hours.